Loving yourself might be the last thing on your to-do list this week, but I’m here to tell you that your true self is aching for it, so what better time than now?
You don’t have to go overboard.
I know the road is long (I'm on it myself!). If you’ve struggled with adoring the person staring back at you in the mirror, it takes a long time to overcome some of the judgements you’ve formed about yourself.
But you can start this week. Right now. Every day actually. Just loving yourself an eensy bit more than you did yesterday. Here are a few, really simple ways to start:
Just for a few minutes this week, imagine yourself as a precious little baby.
Imagine that you were just born, and your family has finally been given the opportunity to see you for the very first time. Picture the looks on their faces when they get to meet you.
Picture grandma, who was probably breathless at the gorgeous sight of you. Maybe she even teared up a little bit, because everyone's been waiting for you, and you’re finally here.
The love in the room for you is palpable.
Everyone wants to touch your little fingers and little toes, and hold you close. Remember that who you were that day is who you still are.
You’re still the love that baby emanated from the hospital room that very day. See that baby in your head for a few seconds. If you were to see yourself at that size, how would you treat yourself?
Gently, and lovingly. Keep yourself warm, clean, and nurtured this week. Treat yourself as though you were the most precious thing in the world — because you are.
Say to the mirror “I’m going to love you just an inch or two more today than I did yesterday.”
Talking to the mirror is hard, I know.
I’m still working on some mirror work exercises from Louise Hay, and I still have trouble seeing around the judgements I have about myself.
But when I take the pressure off, when I say “I know this is hard, but I’m going to be patient with this. I’ll love myself just a bit more today. Just an inch.” It gets easier. It doesn’t seem like such a battle, because I’m not asking too much of myself. Just an inch.
Pick an affirmation or self-love mantra for the week, and say it to yourself whenever you feel like you need it.
For me, my self-love mantra has been “I love my cool, cool life.”
It’s so simple, but every time I say it, I feel like things are just so cool man. And for some reason repeating the ‘cool’ helps to make it more true.
I even say things like “I love my cool, cool hair. I love my cool, cool apartment. I love my cool, cool car. I love my cool, cool boyfriend. I love my cool, cool friends.”
It makes me love myself and my cool, cool life so much more because the feeling is automatic. Even on days when I don’t feel like I believe it, repeating the words makes me feel it.
Download the Crazy, Sexy Love Notes app by Kris Carr.
It's not free, but I made the impulse buy and bought it ($3.99) and I absolutely love it. It's a 52-card deck of love notes that you can read any time, with beautiful art work on each of the cards. Every time I feel the urge to open up my phone and browse social media (which sometimes can be a downer), I open up that app and read one of the messages.
Go one day without judging yourself.
For a whole day, let's stop trying to improve ourselves. Let's stop judging the way we think we're supposed to react to things, or the way we think we're supposed to be living. Let's forget about what we're supposed to be working on at this point in our lives, and how we feel when things don't turn out the way we want.
Let's just let things be the way they are, for one day.
Don't worry about what people are thinking of your shirt, your shoes, or if your hair looks good. Don't worry if you got in a good enough work out. Don't worry if you're not eating as much vegetables today as you should be.
Let the day carry you for just today, and see what it's like to let the universe take the wheel, to let God take the wheel, to let your highest good enjoy being you today.
To just be you. To just exist without question.
Let's just see how that feels.